<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Julie. You may already know her as Confessions of an Unwed Bride, but she has finally decided to begin to venture out into the dating world and is asking for your help and support as she goes through step by step of this life altering decision. Dudes, this is a BIG deal! She's never dated before ... like ever!! Well, I'll let her tell you more ... HIT IT JULIE! </editorsnote>
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Julie Wilson
Before I even went on Date #2 I was talking to this guy on OKCupid and he gave me his number in the thread. I asked Jen if this meant I should continue talking to him in the thread or if I needed to text him. "Text him!" Jen said. Okay, okay, being aggressive here I guess, need that third date. So I do and we talk. It drops off and I don't hear from him for a bit. He randomly texts me while I'm getting ready for Date #2 and then again, nothing.
After date #2 a bit of anxiety kicked in. I was worried that I wouldn't actually get 3 dates in the alloted time. On Halloween, with one week to spare, I decided it was time turn it up. This dude goes skydiving as a hobby and I really genuinely wanted to talk to him. I texted this guy and asked him if he wanted to meet up for drinks:
Way to leave a girl hanging dude! Is this what I get for being forward and being the one to ask him out? Not sad or anything but kinda confused by that. Why did he say yes? And then actually pick a day and add a smiley face? Weird. Oh well, on to the next!
Luckily, the same day I realized I had been blown off by the other guy, another OKC guy asked to meet up. I got free concert tickets for The Roxy on Friday and figured that could be a fun date. We met outside of The Roxy an hour before the show was supossed to start. Every time I meet someone from OKC I am always so pleasantly surpsied when I actually recognize them in person.
I go in for the Confident Hug and then I suggest that we go next door to the Rainbow Room. I ask him if he knows who Lemmy from Motörhead is (you better fucking know dude I think). He says he does and I say, "He's always freakin here, but I think it's kinda late for him, he's a day drinker."
Lemmy is no where in sight. But this insane Elvira looking old lady is working behind the bar. You can tell this bar has been around for a long time. This lady has probably worked there since day 1. He orders the same beer as me and we stay here for an hour and 15 minutes talking. There are a few awkward pauses, which I didn't have on date 1 or 2, but still going okay.
We head over to The Roxy and like good little hipsters, order some PBR. The first band is on and they suck. We start making fun of them, which is cool. Second band is much better than the first band. At some point, either when the second or third band is playing, I realize that I like this guy and then soon after I realize that I have had too much to drink.
I get a water. When the fourth band comes out and the lead singer has on silly eyeliner, I can't take it anymore. I have left my goth days when I was the one in silly eyeliner behind. The best part about free concert tickets is that if it sucks, you just leave and you don't have to worry about wasted money. I say let's get outta here and we leave. We head down the street to another bar. There are some more awkward pauses, the music is super loud, it's after midnight and I'm exhausted. He walks me back to my car. Confident hug!! Confident hug!! Thank you and goodnight!
I sit in my car and as I watch him walk away I start laughing. I'm sure that I actually liked this guy more than he liked me, unlike on Date #1 and #2 where I can safely say they were both more into me than I was into them. I laugh and think, "This is what dating is all about! Of course the one I like wouldn't like me as much."
I was wrong. I got the standard "I had a great time" text at 4:00pm the next day. Followed by some more texts, followed by a phone call on Sunday. What the hell ever happened to playing it cool dudes? Not one of these three guys did. I'm super emotionally unavailable so I scare easily and I understand that but, geez, give me a day to breath. I called him back a few hours later. He wanted to see me before I head down to Fort Lauderdale for a long weekend. I told him I was busy, which I am. I have another date tonight!! Haha. I'm going for extra credit y'all! But I would certainly hang out with this guy again.
I am really happy that I went through with this. Jen actually first put up the challenge 2 weeks before October 7th and I freaked out and she took it down. I had to commit to overcoming my fear first. I was beyond scared in the hours leading up to Date #1. By Date #3 I felt like a pro. It was a big help in moving on and getting some fun dating experience under my belt.
Thanks for all of the love and support!
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