#NotUrLoverGirl: Kanye in the Time of Heartbreak

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @Shinarae

<editorsnote> Shina Rae is a newbie nerdy artist who recently moved from our great big city of Los Angeles to Chiiii-cago. She has agreed to come on board and document her search for love. True story ... Cause like this is all happening ... like now. Like right right now ... Hit it Shina! </editorsnote>

I'm Back On My Kanye Chase.....
                              (it's a metaphor)

Sooooo I've been in hiding. My heart is trying to heal from this unrequited love I've been under the spell of for so long. Sometimes I think it is healing, other times, not so much. But I just had a moment here where I thought about what he's done to me, and how he's probably done it to other women, and how they must feel about him, about themselves and about future love.  

Well this is how I feel; it's kind of an open letter....

To all of you guys (& girls who do it too) who date someone continuously without any thought of commitment, who keep a situation 'open', 'free' or 'unestablished' b/c you don't have the balls (read: courage) to shit or got off the pot, who know they're not really gonna pull the trigger but selfishly string someone along because it keeps you satiated or (worse) just from feeling lonely sometimes, who keep someone around simply as a backup....  unless you've CLEARLY stated this to your partner and they ACKNOWLEDGE and AGREE with your feelings then,  YOU sir (ma'am) are a ...

I mean it's just plain douchbaggery to treat anyone like this.  Is this how you would treat your mother, sister or grandmother??  

You are one of the reasons why there are so many fucked up, dysfunctional relationships out there; like the one's your parents likely had- so maybe you learned it from them, or possibly from one of their absence? You facilitate desperation, deception, dissolution & often unknowingly diseases and you're not only hurting others, which is despicable, but you're hurting yourselves and future generations.   

So if you can't see it, Ima tell you now, you could prolly use some therapy. But here's some Kanye in the meantime....

And my ladies (and for that matter men) who've had someone do this to you, keep your heads up, know it was their insecurities that made them act this way and don't let it make you less secure in yourself and above all, don't let it change you into someone soooo ...
 

Do what you gotta do, know you deserve not only better but the best, and if you gotta, just ...

#noturlovergirl

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