<editorsnote> I do not do not do not edit ANY of the content that the 75 contributors submit on this site. This one arrived in my inbox this morning, and as much as I'd like to put the Jalopnik and other auto bloggers comments about me aside - it, again, is my current reality. Here is my buddy Jordan's take on it ... HIT IT JORDAN!! </editorsnote>
To the people taking potshots at my friend Jen:
I am not a bandwagon sympathizer for the cute girl - I do not always agree with everything Jen does, and I certainly can't say I live my own life the same way.
However, something I do have, and something I am assuming the mass of you attackers don't have is face time with her. See I know Jen. We’ve hung out, drank, and played trivia together. She isn't a supermodel, she isn't the face of corporate greed, and she isn't a slut. She's simply honest and very upfront. This scares the hell out of you people.
I have seen Jen take on numerous tasks and the people who gave her these tasks were not guaranteed a glowing recommendation of their product from her. Her mission statement doesn't revolve around doing whatever she can to get what she wants. In fact her life goal is quite the opposite. She will not give a rave review of something if it doesn't meet her standards and even then always admits that this is her own personal experience with whatever she is using.
You are simply invited to view her transparent life. People will say and do whatever they can to secure money or material things - Jen does not. She just is. She lives and writes about it. Sure some people grow uncomfortable with her openness in so many matters, sexual, spiritual, or even her lifestyle. This is their prerogative and if they want another website is just a click away. There are literally millions of other websites that support your mind set. Still you can't stop reading can you. You can't just turn away from Jen. Be it the drama that seems to chase her from her determined stance on honesty, or the rigorous routine she has set for herself to achieve her life goals. You just can't stop reading. Can you?
So in your hatred now for yourself as you continue to read about my friend Jen, you lash out at her. You call her a slut for her promiscuity, because having sex with people is sluttish behavior for sure. We admonish any male for doing the same. Giving out high fives like trophy's and look down on any girl as unsatisfactory for her desire to experience her own ecstasy. Never acknowledging that the cost a woman pays for allowing herself to experience her sexuality is littered with dangerous pitfalls.
She didn't go looking for a car review - she absolutely didn't care. I can tell you that honestly. They came to her. She draws people in. She said yes because she accepts adventures. One of the things I love the most about her is her limitless desire to say yes to anything that sounds like it could be an adventure. Schedule doesn't dictate her life, nor do the demands most of us feel burdened with. She lives and through her so many of you 9 – 5 workers live vicariously.
For my sake she helped me find my own voice. I wasn't really a writer, blogger, speaker... anything before Jen pulled me into her world. I tried to speak through my art prior to that. Jen gave me a megaphone and let me speak about my own adventures. So before you start hurling insults at someone you don't know. Before you start tearing down my friend whom I assure you is a real person and has real feelings. No matter how hard she fronts. Every slight about her as an individual cuts at least a little bit. Put yourself in her shoes.
Shoes that have traveled, that have seen tragedy and joy. If you put yourself out there with no barriers to protect you ... no insulated internet wall of anonymity to keep others from trolling you ... to be who you really are and just see how many people would accept you for who you really are and not who you want the world to see you as. You will see how having strangers tear you down would feel. So keep hiding behind your amassed knowledge of things you most presumably won't possess; screaming facts and figures like they are bullets with intent to tear my friend down.
Just remember when all your facts matter not and this whole thing passes and you find a new face to fret about. Jen will still be Jen and totally in love with who she is. Just being as real as she can be. You... you will still be whatever mask you are wearing that day wishing you could pull it off and live just one day as honestly as Jen does. Try it, try just being yourself. It's all Jen ever asked of me. It's all I've tried to do since.
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